Tuesday, October 6, 2009

Where is my faith?

Today I stayed home and had a "deep" conversation with my mom. My mom is one of the sweetest woman I know. She is a peoples pleaser, she sacrifices her entire self to help, serve others, and more importantly her family. My mom is a SAINT in every meaning of the word. She has never back chatted anyone, she has never done any harm to anyone. I love her very much and pray that I can fulfil both my parents dream of becoming grandparents one day soon.
My mom has too suffered multiple miscarriages in both 2nd and 3rd trimesters. All in all she has suffered 6 miscarriages. Five before my birth, and one after me. Funny enough, they where all boys. So from this you can only imagine her pain seeing me her flesh and blood experience one miscarriage after the other, reliving her own pain multiplied by 10.

Today’s topic of conversation was "Where is my faith................in the Drs or in God?". The conversation was started by my mom wanting to give me knitting lessons today to make a babies blanket. She continued if it’s one baby, we will need one blankie, and if its twins we will need to knit 2 blankies. I replied telling her, what is the chance I can pull of a twin pregnancy, when I can’t even pull of a singleton? My mom is a great philosopher. And when she gets into one of those moods, oh boy, she can carry on forever. She placed her hands on the table, raised her eye brow, and lowered her glasses.

Her reply was simple. If your faith is in God, you can have triplets or even quadruplets. She is spot on correct. Yes we seek help from Drs to fall pregnant, for an op to be successful, to cure a stiff neck, or a irritating cough, and to prevent us having a miscarriage. I am so guilty of this as I have relied on the Drs to sort out all my congenital problems But we have to believe in God, because he is the One working miracles through the Drs. The Drs are nothing without Him.

On this road of mine through multiple operations and miscarriages, I can honestly say that the Drs who have given grace to God, have had a greater success than those who have not. In my whole medical history there have only been two Drs who have done this.

#1 Dr Van Schouwenburg at Medfem, when I fell pregnant for the first time in June/July 2007, I thanked him and hugged him. His reply was “Don’t thank me, thank God, I am only his servant to help you work his miracle” What a wonderful, humble man this Dr is. I love him to bits. I believe this Dr has had more success rates than other Drs because of his faith.

#2 Prof Schalk Wentzel the urologist at Universitas Hopsital. This Dr had the guts to operate and removed the bladder diverticulum (2009) left behind by the first urologist who worked on me in 2004. It is believed that this has been the cause of my miscarriages, but definitely was the cause of my recurrent bladder infections after the major op in 2004. Prof Wentzel mentioned a few times that he will go to church on Sunday and pray for guidance to perform the op. After he had performed the op, he mentioned that he would keep me in his prayers for God to grant my wish and give us a baby. Great man! Lots of people are very grateful to him for having helped them out.

So ladies and gentleman, the morel of the story is BELIEVE IN GOD not in the Drs as they are mere servants of His will.

2 comments:

  1. It must be so terribly sad for your mom to watch her daughter go through exactly what she went through herself. I am glad that you've got the support of someone who unfortunately have been through the same thing.

    You write beautifully Maria! I am so glad you've decided to blog as I think you have alot to share with the readers of your blog.

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